Every single people in the world has feel it. There is no way to prevent ourselves from experiencing adversity. Not even the most positive person in the whole planet.
Let me tell you my experience.
It was months ago after my 'awakening' moment (read Awakening, Raising, Eye-opening experience. You name it.) and I was started as a person who is highly motivated and thinking positive thought all the time.
It was confusing at first, because when you learn without any mentor at all, you tend to be over analyze everything and take your actions to the extreme. That was what I did.
I was, as I said, taking my actions to the extreme and trying to think positive thought every. single. second.
Because I thought that was the right thing to do.
Because I thought that was the thing that will help me achieve success.
To think positive about everyone around me. To say yes upon everyone's request.
And of course, that was not right.
It was stupid because I was used by so many people in many occasions. I was then renowned as a pushover, the one people who is weak and can't even stand for herself. The one person who will say yes to everyone's requests, no matter what is the conditions and even if that was damaging me, my time, and even money.
If there is any advice that I could give to you guys out there is this :
Be balance. NEVER take ANYTHING to the extreme.
Because one of the most essential thing about life is apparently to be balanced and trying hard to balancing every kind of aspects in our entire life.
Anyway.
I was, shortly, realizing my mistakes and trying to be positive while still holding up to the fact.
Trying to be more confident while still balancing up my assertive and compassionate side toward another people.
It was because of the adversity that I was facing. It was one of my wake up moment too, realizing that, even when we are acting like the best and kindest in the world (while striving our heart hardly to really feeling it), we could still be collided by adversity.
Times when we were broken down.
Times when we were feelings like we are on the bottom again.
And this is how I overcome that adversity that hits me.
1. Holding up to God.
Never - NEVER - forget that God exist and being there for a reason. He guided human being and decided whether or not we are proper and suitable to be released from our adversity.
It was weeks of prayer and cried. Begging God to rid myself out of the self-doubt and fear.
I fear that I'm doubting my own goal.
I fear that I will go back as a person with no dream and determination.
I fear that I will give up.
It was not a fuzzy warm feeling. It was, yes. Horrible.
But Praying to God and surrender everything to Him was the only choice I have.
I could only ask for strength, and grateful for the opportunity to cleanse my sins.
And Alhamdulillah, weeks later, God decided that it is the time for me to wake up and it (my huge adversity) was gone. just like that. Yes it's amazing how God arrange things in life.
2. Adjusting my perspectives.
All of the stress that comes from not being able to finishing my tasks.
All of that pressure feelings.
All of that fear of people's opinions.
I was writing them down and think about this :
What is the worst thing that could happen?
Well, it doesn't turned out to be so scary when I wrote down the worst case scenario. It was, in fact, helpful. Because I could find out the worst thing and, once I think about it, it was not so scary anymore.
The other thing that I did was I'm not focusing on the past when my adversity kicked in. I was focusing on the future. How could I handle the future if I'm always stuck on the same pattern, same miserable routine?
Focusing on the positivity and the future will definitely help.
Trust me.
3. Take actions.
setting realistic goals.
create visual representations of goals.
have plan B.
refuse to quit.
That was the actions I got from WikiHow and it was wonderful. So true and inspiring.
You should planning the goals that you would want to achieve and be disciplines to stick to the routines. It will be hard at first, but, like any other habits, it will be very easy to do once you make it usual routines of yours.
Set aside your time every Sunday evening to write a journal plans of what will you do the next week and be very disciplines with this habits.
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